JENNY R. SUSSER, PH.D.

POWER & PERFORMANCE SPORT PSYCHOLOGY SERVICES

Grief and Gratitude

Posted by on Aug 13, 2013

Grief and Gratitude

  NY Times Article “The Trauma of Being Alive” Grief and Gratitude This wonderfully written article reminds me of one of the classes I remember the most from graduate school called “Grief & Loss”. It was required, which I am grateful for because it was one of the most impactful, important courses I took. My professor was incredible; deeply insightful and so willing to “go there” that she created this safe and powerful place to learn, talk, and experience. She was of those teachers that truly taught, much more committed to our learning than to any agenda she might have had. And I suspect this was a difficult course to teach. Grief is such a tough subject and no one wants to talk about this monster that lives beneath all of our beds. Reading this article reminds me how dynamic grief can be. When I work with patients, I talk about grief like you are sitting on a bench next to it (grief)…you have to “be” with it, sit with it, be overwhelmed by it, sometimes connect and feel it, sometimes you get to ignore it, but it’s always there. Grief is a balancer in some ways as being elated all the time is just not realistic. And while it’s terrible to experience, if you can look for it, there is always that little part of grief which validates the love for the thing you lost, which then brings comfort. Awareness of your grief process is important and helpful. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’ book, “Death and Dying” is mentioned in the article and it is one of, if not the most important writings on grief around. Many people are not surprised by the denial or depression part of the grief process, but what takes most people completely by surprise is anger. And everyone in a grief process will experience anger, trust me. It is one of the most conflicting parts of the process…becoming angry with whatever you loved and lost. It never makes sense but at the same time, it signals progress in the process so just be on the look out for it and don’t read too much into it. Which leads me to talk about preparation for grief. This is something we avoid like the plague in our culture. I can’t tell you how many people I know that refuse to write a will because they think that will...

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Discussion on “Habits”

Posted by on Aug 2, 2013

Discussion on “Habits”

Here are my thoughts on this interesting article from Fast Company. Read Fast Company article HERE 95% of what we think, do, feel, and say EVERY day is habit! 95%! That leaves very little room for intentional thoughts and actions. So, the key is to create “great” habits and make them part of the 95%, making most of your day “great”! Repeated action is the only way to make something habit, and you can make anything a habit–a physical action, a thought, a feeling. Figure out what “action” you’d like to make a habit, one that will improve your life, and then find a way to repeat that over and over and over (for at least 3 weeks, the article says 66 days). There will come a day you will take this action and not realize you did and BAM! you’ve got a new...

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